Who did Mother love the most? When we were alone, she’d say to me “I love you the most, Sera.” It was only later that my sisters and I discovered that she’d said the same thing to each of us.
The truth is that parents are not really interested in justice. They just want quiet.
Quotation from Bill Cosby
Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.
Quotation from P.J. O’Rourke
really? she said that to all of you? Even if I had a favourite I wouldn’t tell my kids – that’s something that makes people go into therapy…..
strangely enough, when my adopted mother was in hospital and not expected to recover (though she did for several years) she told me “Stop crying darling. don’t you know you’re always been my favourite…………….. daughter?”
I only had an adopted brother
I guess she was just trying to make each of you feel extra special – but it’s not something I’d tell to kids. Those quotes are spot on!
Sibling rivalries and bickering can lead to a parent’s desire for peace and quiet, but telling one she is the most loved was never a good idea.
Best wishes
My mother never said she loved any of her children best but constantly demonstrated which two were her favourites – still does. (I’m not one of them!)
I have no favourites amongst my three – love them all equally – but have learned that children can be very competitive when it comes to mother love…
I love Bill Cosby.
“Everybody knows how to raise children except the people who have them.” As someone who has them, I agree completely… the theoretical is always so much easier than the applied science. I’m always sure what to do in theory — but when I’m really faced with a situation, there are so many variables to consider that it’s often more complicated than I expected…
My grandmother never said anything complimentary to her children’s faces, because they might get swelled heads. My mother never knew her own mother was proud of her achievements till my aunt told her Gramma said so. Meanwhile, my mother thought my aunt was Gramma’s favorite, and my aunt had no idea of Gramma’s opinion of her, either.
I was the only one so I never had any doubts but times were frequent when I wished there were others to share the blame and the aspirations. Then I went ahead and had just one..
Is the outhouse the equivalent of the naughty step then?
For houses without a staircase perhaps?
Ah, yes. Dr. Cosby is one of my favorites. This is a cool post. I mean, how many of us have tried this one out on our parents! Smiles!!!
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Ha! My mother told me I was lucky I didn’t have siblings, or she’d have loved them more. *sigh*
I love your mother.
the best advice i ever got on raising kids was, “don’t try to do everything right. just love them, and make darn sure they know you do.” i’m the only girl, with 4 brothers. i always knew daddy loved me best, and my step mum would have been happier in a a family with one fewer girl.
My sister handled that well. Every time any kid did something well, she would say “He’s the good one” or “She’s the clever one” etc. — being careful to mix the terms and praise both fairly equally.
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I only have one kid, so G is definitely my favorite!
But… I do have two dogs (and they’re like my kids). They’re both my favorites, but at different times.