Subconscious parenthood is an interesting subject. If the goal is to live a fulfilled, meaningful life, why get pregnant “accidentally on purpose?” If the desire is to have a child, make the experience a positive one. Absent a willing partner, explore artificial insemination, in vitro fertilization or adoption as valid “Plan A” options. Ambitious or predatory seduction should be relegated to Plan B. Or am I being a total priss?
Kate Spicer explains why getting pregnant after a one-night stand would be a happy mistake. (Daily Mail) This story is the inspiration for today’s comic.
Judge Orders FDA To Let 17-Year-Olds Use “Morning-After Pill” (NPR.com)
I just skimmed through the first article. But, basically, these single women want to get pregnant. And so when they go out and get down and dirty with these men, they try to be safe, but yet they’re subconsciously trying to get preggers as well? Sneaky, sneaky. People should always practice safe sex mainly for this reason–lonely women who entrap men into parenthood.
But yes, I agree with you. If you want to have a pleasurable experience with parenthood rather than a “random surprise”, the options you listed above are great.
It smacks of misleading/dishonesty if one party doesnt know of the intent. Mind you, there are plenty of men out there who wouldn’t give a damn anyway, so long as they don’t have to take responsibility or contribute financially.
This one made me cringe and laugh at the same time. LOL — the things you think of!
I knew a girl that tried to convince a drunk friend of mine they had sex when he was drunk (they didn’t) and she was pregnant.
Didn’t take.
But I guess the ‘keep a man’ baby is a bit of a tangent, huh.
No, I don’t think that you are coocuuhh! I like your plan A attitude. Adoption always sticks out to me to be “the thing to do” if you wish to have a child without the asset of a male partner.
Hopping bars and then hopping strangers to get pregnant seems to be a move of “trailer trash” babes and will end up in a random sibling who’s genes are at the least, questionable! It’s OK to have fun and sex for its own sake, but I would attach plan B to that motion…
As a woman, there might be one exception, that is if you find a partner to copulate with who you actually know (and like somewhat) and who gives “consent” to “donate” fertility…
I came across a woman in this very situation. And she was weighing her options because her partner (male) was not as futile as expected. Fortunately for them, it “worked out” in the end. OK I am going to stop right here, no further details to the story.
You are not a priss – although “gotcha” pregnancies don’t perturb me as much as the unprotected sex aspect of the issue.
It would be interesting to read the male perspective regarding this phenomenon.
I was glad my parents had me!
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I’m with you. Don’t dube someone into something so important. Somebody is always going to get hurt.
Kids need men in their lives too
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH! You made me smile with your diamond comment on my blog. You. Are a master of words. Thanks. Very charming.
It seems to me nobody thought and wrote more carefully than Carl Jung when it comes to what motivates people to have children. If one is looking to have a more perfect extension of oneself living in the world that’s probably a bad idea for commencing parenthood.
Jung felt that the “unlived lives” of the parents deeply impacted the lives of the children, as if “branding” the children with a particular destiny. The unlived lives of the parents is an ancestral inheritance which has great weight and gravitas, in that it literally shapes the lives of the children. Jung elaborates on the notion of the parents’ unlived lives when he says it is “that part of their lives which might have been lived had not certain somewhat threadbare excuses prevented the parents from doing so. To put it bluntly, it is that part of life which they have always shirked, probably by means of a pious lie. That sows the most virulent germs.”
Children see more than the parents suspect or want them to see, as they are empathically tuned into the unconscious of the parents. The parents’ unconscious, which seems to be in the background, is actually in the foreground of the child’s psyche. The parent’s unconscious flows into and informs the child’s psyche. “Nothing influences children more,” Jung reflects, “than the silent facts in the background. They have an extremely contagious effect on the children.”
Have you read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker? I think you’d like it Sera