D.H. Lawrence was candidly against physical repression. He believed that one should acknowledge one’s desires, even if that meant exploring darker, non-conformist forms of passion, like infidelity.
In the long run, she says ‘Am I satisfied, or is there some beastly dissatisfaction gnawing and gnawing inside me?’ And if there is some dissatisfaction, it is physical at least as much as psychic, sex as much as soul.
Quotation from D.H. Lawrence, on Women
My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection… Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go… Settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year.
Quotation from Lori Gottleib, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough (The Atlantic)
The ‘Whom have you ever loved?’ quotation in today’s comic is taken from D.H. Lawrence’s The Captain’s Doll. (Literature.org)
LOVE your illustrations today, very poignant
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You need to marry your Best Friend to make it work. Dazzle and passion burn out and leave you burnt. Good friendship lasts forever.
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Reference- He believed that one should acknowledge one’s desires, even if that meant exploring darker, non-conformist forms of passion, like infidelity.
I think our freewill allows for choices but brings with it responsibilities. We are free to exercise or explore in actions or otherwise to deal with our desires but that always involves a mental judgment, barring any mental disorder. I don’t think we should ever be deluded into thinking such freedom ( a freedom to exercise our desires in actions ) carries no responsibility, since it is inherent in any free choice, evidenced or implied even in all of the existentialist philosophy of Lawrence’s time.
Lawrence certainly hated any form of mechanization in thinking and was at odds with his friend and philosopher Bertrand Russell who held a completely opposing viewpoint. Russell disagreed with the idea of glorifying of the self but favoured a more thoughtful, refined, civilized, and logical expressed of his life philosophy. Best wishes
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Anything with love and spending your life with someone FOREVER seems to be sticky. Just love forever.
Love and longing and possession and repression
Very sad
but still beautiful
We don’t have a choice about loving.. it comes along with the territory. It can’t be controlled or channelled or used wisely. It just is and sometimes it hurts.
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The thing is though, if you satisfy every beastly dissatisfaction, you might feel better for a moment, but will you still feel better tomorrow and the day after? I think you need to find an inbetween way, something that makes your heart and your soul and your body happy. You can’t have everything of everything, but there is also no reason to settle for almost nothing of almost nothing. You can have quite a lot of quite a few things, that you can.
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I agre, the illustrations today are very poignant. Fits my mood.
Susan
That is true but it’s not the whole story …….sure love is rarely a choice, although some would contend it is a decision to love in spite off a flaw or warts in all etc ……. I agree love maybe is an instinct, or even a stomach ache that hurts, all of those types of human emotions that is and which we associate many forms of intimacy.
But it is that moment in time when we critically and consciously through free will choose how to shape our love that we move towards our freedom. In that regard is our choice by necessity that we critically respond, perhaps to reject the stereotype of a commercialized culture of romance, towards a vision that is more inclusive, authentic or liberating. But in that moment we choose its shape our love which in turn shapes our relationship with each and the world. In that respect it is always a choice, however compelling be its instinctive pulling power, nevertheless we have the choice to shape it according to our free will.
best wiashes
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Love this one!
We can’t control love… but if we could I would choose to love someone in a very intense way forever! Wouldn’t that be great?!
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I never read D.H. Lawrence (shame!), but I saw the newest movie version of Lady Chatterley and I can connect this post to the story.
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